“Put On Your Own Oxygen Mask First”: Caregiving Advice from You, Our Readers

“Put On Your Own Oxygen Mask First”: Caregiving Advice from You, Our Readers

When we share articles like this one on our social media channels, readers respond with their own insights and wisdom on being family caregivers. It is so amazing to see people develop friendships through their shared comments on these articles!

So now we want to share with everyone else the best of the advice offered up on Facebook, LinkedIn and other social media networks in response to our articles so far this year. The majority of these are anonymous, but we are happy to identify the person behind the words with permission.

Try This

“Listen. Really hear what your care recipient needs and then open your mind to possible solutions. Be creative, use a good sense of humor and do everything with the dignity of the individual in the forefront of your mind. No regrets.” Breeda Miller, public speaker “Because Wit Works

“I should have gotten help a lot sooner than I did.” (anonymous)

“I also believe in not using the 4 Ws. Why, what, where, and when.”

“I was blessed to be able to care for my mother but we also had caregivers who came and were wonderful with her…allowing us to be able to care for her and know that when we were not there that everything was fine.” (anonymous)

“We don’t want to make them feel like they are a hardship!” (anonymous)

“Respond to feelings – yes. Validate them – not always.”

Care for You Too

“If you don’t take time to care for yourself no matter how strong you think you are you will someday crash and burn. It is very easy to think you and only you can do it all beware as you may end up resenting and disliking the ones you love. Please remember you must take care of yourself first and it is OK to ask for help and take time off.” (anonymous)

“Take a deep breath.”

“Being able to communicate with other people, even though I don’t know them, seems to help with stress. Reading other people’s stories, many worse than mine, makes me feel more compassionate.” (anonymous)

“It’s scary, sometimes lonely and very depressing.” (anonymous)

“The assistant needs an assistant.” (anonymous)

“1 R that I would add: Research and find the Alzheimer’s Support Group nearest you and attend meetings (usually monthly). Their info & support are invaluable.” (anonymous)

This Too Shall Pass

“I know how frustrating it can be but it’s also rewarding as you will always be glad that you did all you could for a loved one.” (anonymous)

“Relax, you are doing the best you can. Don’t let perfect get in the way of good!” (anonymous)

“It is difficult, but so rewarding when we get a smile or a laugh and we know she actually understood.” (anonymous)

“It’s like walking up the down staircase.” (anonymous)

Feel free to share your knowledge too by commenting on this article on our website or in the comments section on Facebook, LinkedIn or wherever you saw this article. And thanks for reading!

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