Every November, we recognize National Alzheimer’s Disease Awareness Month, and I always find myself thinking about the families we’ve met over the years - the ones learning how to adapt their lives around the unpredictability of Alzheimer’s or dementia.
If you’ve walked that road, you know that “unpredictable” can quickly become exhausting. You never quite know what the day will bring - a forgotten name, a moment of confusion, or a sudden change in mood.
That’s where routine becomes one of the most powerful tools families have.
It may sound simple, but predictability creates calm. It gives a sense of order when memory and orientation start to fade. And most importantly, it helps your loved one feel safe in a world that might not always feel familiar anymore.
Why Routine Matters More Than You Think
When we work with families here in Annapolis, one of the first things we talk about is structure: what mornings look like, when meals happen, what daily activities your loved one enjoys. It’s not just about organization. It’s about creating a rhythm that feels reassuring.
For someone living with Alzheimer’s, every day can feel a bit like waking up in a new place. A consistent routine gives them something they can still recognize: the smell of breakfast at the same time each day, the caregiver who greets them with a smile, the comfort of a familiar chair by the window.
That consistency builds trust and lowers anxiety. And for family caregivers, it can bring a sense of control and peace to what can otherwise feel like chaos.
When the Holidays Disrupt the Routine
The holidays are a beautiful time, but they can also throw off the schedule that keeps your loved one grounded.
Family gatherings, travel, late nights, and extra noise can all feel overwhelming. I’ve seen families plan big celebrations with the best intentions, only to realize later that their loved one seemed withdrawn or agitated.
If you notice that your loved one is struggling more than usual this time of year, maybe they’re confused by the extra activity, or seem disoriented in conversations, those can be subtle signs of cognitive decline becoming more noticeable.
Instead of pushing for “normal,” try focusing on comfort. You might simplify traditions, celebrate earlier in the day, or bring the festivities to them in smaller ways.
Maybe that means baking cookies together instead of hosting a big dinner. Or playing a favorite holiday song and letting them hum along. The goal isn’t to recreate the past, it’s to make this season meaningful in the present.
How to Maintain Routine During Busy Seasons
Here are a few simple ways to protect your loved one’s sense of calm, even when life gets hectic:
- Stick to familiar meal and rest times.
Meals and naps are anchors in the day, try to keep them consistent, even during family gatherings. - Involve them in small traditions.
Helping with easy, familiar tasks (like decorating cookies or folding napkins) gives them purpose and connection. - Limit overstimulation.
Too many people or loud conversations can be confusing. Choose quieter spaces and shorter visits when possible. - Create a calm-down plan.
Have a “quiet corner” ready: a comfortable chair, soft blanket, maybe a favorite photo or piece of music for when things get overwhelming. - Keep familiar faces close.
If possible, stick with the same caregivers or family members who provide comfort and familiarity.
Recognizing Signs of Change
Sometimes, the holidays are when families notice new or worsening signs of decline, and that realization can be emotional.
You might see your loved one hesitate when using simple household items, seem anxious in once-familiar spaces, or have trouble remembering family members’ names. These are not just “senior moments.” They can be early signs that additional support may be needed.
If you notice these changes, take it as an opportunity to start the conversation about help, not as something to fear, but as a step toward peace of mind for everyone.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
I know firsthand how overwhelming it can feel to keep everything running smoothly - to be the scheduler, the emotional support, and the constant source of reassurance.
That’s why at Homewatch CareGivers of Annapolis, our team focuses on creating structure and calm for families. We work alongside you to build routines that fit your loved one’s needs; from consistent daily care to companionship that keeps life feeling familiar.
Routine may sound small, but for someone living with Alzheimer’s, it’s everything. It’s safety. It’s comfort. It’s love in action.
So this National Alzheimer’s Disease Awareness Month, my hope for you is simple:
Slow down. Find your rhythm. And know that it’s okay to ask for help along the way.
When care feels predictable, home can still feel like home, even when memory changes.
If you’re noticing changes in a loved one or want to talk about creating a calm daily routine, we’re here to help.